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No To Rape. No Exceptions.

VIEWPOINT

By Jolene Tan

At first blush, the campaign name No To Rape seems odd. Who could disagree?

No To Rape But reality is odder still. The law itself, the Singapore Penal Code, says “yes” to rape. A man can force a woman to have sex with him, and never be prosecuted or convicted for rape, so long as they are married. (There are limited exceptions – for instance, where the couple is “living apart” and the woman has applied for a protection order – but they do not apply to most marriages.) This is known as marital immunity for rape.

Shockingly, marital immunity extends not only to adult women but also to minor wives. A man penetrating a girl of 14 or 15 without her consent will not be treated as committing rape, so long as he is her husband.
No To Rape calls for marital immunity for rape to be abolished completely, so that all rape complaints face the same processes of investigation, and the same potential for prosecution and conviction, regardless of who the perpetrator might be. More than 2,400 people have signed our petition at NoToRape.com to show their support for this position.

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Why does marital immunity exist to begin with? This provision was bequeathed to us by the British. Traditionally, in many societies, women were not understood as full people, but partly property. Women were assumed not to have sex for their own purposes. Sexual access to their bodies was decided by their owners – fathers if they were not married, and husbands if they were.

Rape was a crime against “purity”, a quality for which a woman’s body was a vehicle, and from which her body derived value. This value belonged to her father or husband. Rape destroyed this value, and had the character of a property crime against the relevant man. That being so, how could forcing your wife to have sex be rape? The man was simply accessing the value to which he was entitled. The woman’s feelings were irrelevant. Her non-consent was a kind of malfunction, a failure of a thing to serve its proper purpose; maybe regrettable if you were sentimental, but not a matter for law. The husband had “already had her” and was licensed to do so, the wife had long lost her “purity” to him – and it was purity, and not women, that the law protected.

Thanks to the global struggles of women’s rights campaigners, this understanding of rape is now alien and abhorrent to many. We understand rape as a crime because it is an act of violence. It is an invasive appropriation of the victim’s body against her will and contrary to her purposes, to serve the desires and wishes of the rapist. It says that her right to choose what to do with herself does not matter, that she is simply a resource to be used by the rapist. And this is just as heinous whether the rapist is a stranger, an acquaintance, a colleague, a friend, a lover, or a husband.

Prosecuting marital rape is not interference with a private relationship any more than is prosecuting any other form of domestic violence. Rape is not sexual intimacy – it is just a beating carried out with a sexual organ instead of a fist. A marriage certificate should not be a license to commit violence. If you agree, please sign the No To Rape petition today.

The writer, a charity fundraiser with a legal background, is one of the organisers of the No To Rape campaign. AWARE supports the campaign.

Financial Clinic By iPAC @ AWARE

Event title: Financial Clinic By iPAC
Date: 9 October 2009
Time: 7-10pm
Venue: AWARE Centre

Description: One on one consultation with iPAC financial consultants for women earning less than $3000 and are facing changed financial circumstances – divorce, death of spouse, loss of job, partner loss of job, increased debt servicing and impoverishment from loss of investment.

Financial consultants will assist clients to plan their finances, optimise their resources and reduce expenses.

To register call Priyanka at 67797137 or email priyanka@aware.org.sg

Glen Goei picks AWARE for the premiere of his new film

The Blue Mansion
The Blue Mansion
Don’t miss the special screening of Glen Goei’s latest film The Blue Mansion on 15th October. It’s a fundraising premiere and the net proceeds will go to AWARE.

Don’t miss the special screening of Glen Goei’s latest film The Blue Mansion on 15th October. It’s a fundraising premiere and the net proceeds will go to AWARE.

There will be a pre-movie cocktail reception where you can meet Glen and members of his cast. They include Lim Kay Siu, Adrian Pang, Neo Swee Lin, Emma Yong, Claire Wong, Tan Kheng Hua, and Huzir Sulaiman.
bluemansion_yachtRemember to bring your business card because there will be a business card draw and you could win a 4-hour cruise valued at $3,000, with soft drinks and snacks, for 10 people on this yacht.
Buy a block of 20 seats and you will get:
  • A token of appreciation from Glen
  • A photo session with Glen and the cast members.
If your company buys blocks of 10 or 20 seats, we’ll put your company’s logo on our webpage and other material.
Get all the sponsorship details here.

Event details:
Date: Thursday 15th October
Venue: GV Grand 6, Great World City
(Cocktail reception at the Garden Terrace)
Time: 7.30pm

Price: Tickets are $50 each (Tax deductible)
Book your seats now – send email to bluemansion@aware.org.sg or call Rina at 6779-7137

Special thanks to our other sponsors:
Fundraising premiere on 15th Oct:
Private Event Screening on 14th Oct:
A Family Photo
A Family Photo

The Blue Mansion (NC16) is a quirky murder mystery about a wealthy Asian tycoon who dies suddenly under mysterious circumstances. He returns as a ghost to try to uncover the secret of his death with the help of his family and the police.

It was filmed entirely on location at a UNESCO Architectural Heritage Award recipient, the Cheong Fatt Tze Mansion in Penang. Larry Smith Bsc, the Director of Photography for Stanley Kubrick’s film Eyes Wide Shut, leads the international production team.

Sitting down to a meal @ the Blue Mansion
Sitting down to a meal @ the Blue Mansion

The credits read like a roll call of Singapore’s first families of stage and screen – Lim Kay Siu, Adrian Pang, Neo Swee Lin, Emma Yong, Claire Wong, Tan Kheng Hua, Huzir Sulaiman, to name just a few.

Larry Smith Bsc, the Director of Photography for Stanley Kubrick’s film Eyes Wide Shut, leads the international production team.

The Blue Mansion is brought to you by

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Watch the movie trailer at the official movie website.

The director and some of the cast

Glen Goei
Glen Goei

Tan Kheng Hua
Tan Kheng Hua

Neo Swee Lin
Neo Swee Lin

Emma Yong
Emma Yong

Adrian Pang
Adrian Pang

President’s Message: The crisis that opened up the space for debate

DanaLamAWARE faced a crisis earlier this year. But, says AWARE President DANA LAM, it was a crisis that was good for Singapore because it got Singaporeans thinking and talking about sensitive issues. And it led to Singapore women taking a stand that will let AWARE continue its work for gender equality.

The Prime Minister’s National Day rally speech gives us pause. We share his concern for balance and secularism.

Activists for women’s rights the world over have long identified the rise of fundamentalist religion as the major threat to women and contemporary societies this century. The ‘AWARE Saga’ as it has been described showed that fundamentalist religion is on the rise in Singapore. After the news broke, stories of evangelism, proselytisation, hospital bed conversions – many of them first person encounters – began to surface and abound.

The news that a secular woman’s group in Singapore could be taken over by a bunch of fundamentalists was a shock to many. It jolted them out of their comfort zone and spurred them to stand up and be counted. It became clear that there are many in Singapore who value our secularism above other things, and that this secularism, taken for granted for so long, needs to be protected.

For us at AWARE, the battle was not only for the preservation of Singapore’s secular space but also for gender equality, for the continuation of our nearly a quarter of a century’s work to level the playing field for women, to remove the obstacles that keep women from reaching their potential.

Fundamentalist religion inevitably returns women to the dark ages. In the most extreme forms of fundamentalism, women are regarded almost as chattel, with no rights, no role other than that of a totally subservient and submissive wife and mother. Even in a less repressive form of fundamentalism, such as seen in Singapore, women are deemed to be subordinate to men.

When it was discovered that a good number of the women who had staged the takeover of AWARE came from the Church of Our Saviour, we looked at the church’s website and noted with great concern statements that it was in the natural order of things that women should rank after men, that the woman’s role was to:
1. Marry
2. Bear children
3. Guide the house
4. Not be a reproach to her husband.

This brought back memories of the mid 1980s when Singapore women, making good progress on the road to gender equality, suddenly found themselves caught in a resurgence of patriarchy. This was when the government, noting that graduate women were not marrying and that those who did marry were either delaying having children or not having them at all, produced a slew of draconian pro-natal policies that privileged one group of women over another group.

Graduate mothers were provided with incentives to have more children, non-graduate mothers were penalised for having a second or third child. Women in lower socio-economic groups were provided with monetary incentives to surgically remove the possibility of further pregnancies.

It was in that climate of patriarchal attitudes and policies that AWARE was born in 1985. It was reprehensible to find, in 2009, that AWARE had been taken over by a group of women who appeared to accept patriarchy and whose faith-based values were in direct contradiction to AWARE’s.

Since 1985 AWARE has played a pivotal role in challenging the status quo and in identifying and addressing those areas of habitual thought that still impinge on and discriminate against women’s equal participation in family and society. This includes recognising and respecting women’s rights over their own bodies, their sexuality, and procreation matters.

Much has been achieved, but the work goes on.

As we celebrate this 44th year of Independent Singapore, women are still grappling with issues that limit them because of their gender. One such issue is the stand taken by far too many employers on pregnant women. This attitude is seen in a letter to the media in early August: “…pregnant women…fail to understand the damage and loss caused to an employer …by having to maintain on its payroll an employee who, throughout her maternity leave, saddles her colleagues with heavier workloads, does not contribute to the company’s revenue and causes loss to the company by continuing to draw pay.”

Coincidentally, this letter was published around the time of the 14th Apec Women Leaders Network meeting that was held in Singapore. One of Singapore’s most outstanding women, Ambassador Chan Heng Chee, made this observation in her opening address at the meeting:

“The more open the country, the deeper the rule of law, the greater the transparency, the more rooted its political and social institutions, the deeper the respect for human rights, the more women can fulfil their lives.”

Ambassador Chan added she did not get the sense that young Singapore women were short of role models. She said: “They believe they can be what they want to be. They believe they are entitled to a good education. They also tell me that they do not feel their employers doubt their intelligence and abilities. Rather, the employers question their commitment to their careers because the assumption is that they will get married and start families.”

As Singapore enters its 45th year of independence, and as AWARE prepares for its 25th anniversary, there is still much to do to ensure true and lasting gender equality. A few months ago, AWARE faced a crisis. But it was a crisis that got Singaporeans thinking and talking about the sensitive issues of race and religion. It opened up the space for debate, bringing to the surface a shared concern about the rise of fundamentalist religion.

And it led, on 2 May 2009, to a decisive stand by Singapore women and not a few good men for secularism, for inclusiveness and openness, and for AWARE to continue its work for gender equality.

AWARE members fly the flag on 8 August

Flag Day

It was an ambitious target given the economic downturn and the H1N1 pandemic, but in the end we did not do too badly.

We had hoped to raise at least $70,000 on the AWARE Flag Day on 8 August. What we managed to raise was a little over $40,000 – a very decent amount considering all the obstacles we faced.

Most of this money came from members who, in the weeks before the Flag Day, generously responded to the call for people to sponsor a tin for $100 each.

This made all the difference because, as we got closer and closer to the day, more and more schools and students who had said they would help pulled out because of concerns about the H1N1 virus.

So on 8 August, we had far fewer AWARE donation tins on the streets than expected. But the volunteers who did turn up went the extra mile and did their best to persuade shoppers and commuters to dig into their pockets and purses.

Some members of the public, noticing the AWARE logo on the tins, made a point of coming over and, as they made a donation, asking whether things had settled down at AWARE.

Thanks are due to all the members who kindly sponsored tins, the staff and volunteers who worked so hard, and the members of the public who contributed to the AWARE Flag Day. – Report by Rina Marie

Together we can fight for a better tomorrow

New Member’s Night 20 August 2009

Exco member Tan Joo Hymn takes the new members on a tour of AWARE
Exco member Tan Joo Hymn takes the new members on a tour of AWARE

Charlene Lee was a supporter of AWARE for a long time but never saw a need to become a member. Then in April this year, when AWARE’s values and policies appeared to be under threat, she decided she had to take a stand.

“I joined AWARE because together we can fight for a better tomorrow,” said Charlene, 29, when she came to the AWARE Centre in August for New Members’ Night, the monthly gathering for new members to learn more about AWARE.

“It was good to have an up close and personal session with the staff and some Exco members,’ said Charlene, adding that she was impressed by the range of programmes undertaken by AWARE.

Another new member, Tiffany Lai, 23, felt the session was very informative and that “AWARE’s programmes are very relevant to the issues that women face today”. Tiffany plans to volunteer in counselling and she hopes to be able to empower women to make their own decisions and be proud of it.

Sueyen Tan, 28, also enjoyed the gathering. She said she had joined AWARE because “AWARE’s values represent mine. I believe that I can learn new things and AWARE is a good place for me to achieve this.”

At these monthly new members’ nights, AWARE staff and some Exco members make presentations and answer queries. The sessions are lively and a good opportunity for members to not just learn more about AWARE but also make new friends. The next session is scheduled for 16th September 2009. – Report by Mardiana Abunaim

Past Training: Financial Awareness & Confidence Training (FACT)

Note: This course is no longer on offer. The information is retained as a record of past activities and training.

img_planningFinancial Awareness & Confidence Training (FACT) Programme

Have you been trying to build up your savings but find that your bank account is hardly growing?

Do you find yourself overwhelmed by all the different types of insurance available to you?

Do you worry about life after retirement but feel clueless about what you can do?

Have you been too afraid to turn to investments to increase your assets?

If you answer yes to one or more of these questions, you are definitely not alone. The life skill of money management presently receives little attention in formal education despite its utmost importance to women. When available, financial education in Singapore is often provided by vendors of financial products who may not be providing objective and impartial financial information.

AWARE has put together a highly affordable 3-part workshop called the Financial Awareness & Confidence Training (FACT) Programme to equip you with the knowledge you need to gain greater financial security.

What makes this course different is its format. Each module comprises a talk and at least 2 Money Club sessions. Participants can opt to their Money Club meetings after the course.

FACT trainers are experienced executives in financial fields such as personal banking, investment banking and asset management.

The training kicks off with an introduction to the foundations of personal finance. Topics include personal budgeting, debt management, savings and compound interest.

The second installment demystifies personal insurance, providing a clear overview on the types of insurance available, as well as the coverage women need during different phases of their lives.

FACT’s final session gives women the knowledge they need to enter the investment market with confidence. We clarify concepts like risk, return and time horizon of investments. We also deepen your understanding of investment fundamentals such as diversification, building an investment plan and assessing new investment opportunities.

A detailed study of women’s financial habits and experiences by Prudential America has shown that women who are financially knowledgeable tend to be more confident and proactive when it comes to achieving their retirement goals. The key to confidence is knowledge, and FACT will give you both.

Here’s a more detailed course outline:

1. FACT 1: Money & Me – Personal Financial Management

• Understanding one’s personal money style
• Understanding one’s financial situation
• Personal budgeting
• Developing a financial plan
• Balancing savings and spending
• Savings and compound interest
• Types of debt and debt Management
• Importance of emergency fund

Training date: Check back for updates

Where:
AWARE Centre (Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22)

How much?
Single: $50
Pair: $80

AWARE members who log in at the website and purchase will receive a 40% discount. That is just $30 for the workshop or $48 for a pair.

2. FACT 2: Protecting Myself & My Family – Insurance

• Different types of Insurance

Training Date: Check back for updates

Where:
AWARE Centre (Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22)

How much?
Single: $150
Pair: $240

AWARE members who log in at the website and purchase will receive a 33% discount. That is just $100 for the workshop or $150 for a pair.

3. FACT 3: Growing My Money – Investment

• Understanding risk, returns, and time horizon of investments
• Key investment risks
• Overview of major investment types
• Questions to ask when assessing new investment opportunities
• Basics of diversification
• Basics of building an investment plan

Training date: Check back for updates

Where:
AWARE Centre (Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22)

How much?
Individual: $300
Pair: $500

AWARE members who log in at the website and purchase will receive a 33% discount. That is just $200 for the workshop or $300 for a pair.

AWARE’s Annual Regular Membership is just $40. Click here to become a member.

Please write to us at publiceducation@aware.org.sg if you have any questions.

AWARE will not try to recover cost of EGM from previous Exco (6 Jul 2009)

AWARE Media Release 6 July 2009
At the 2 May EGM several members queried Josie Lau and her Exco about the cost of the EGM. Calls were made, both at the EGM and in media forums subsequently, for the money to be recovered from the members of that Exco.

After taking office, the current Exco formed an internal review team to look into the expenses incurred by the previous Exco and determine whether their decisions and actions adhered to the AWARE Constitution and other established practices.

The EGM cost a total of $99,291.28. This was not quite covered by the $98,765.70 in membership fees paid by the 2,748 people who joined AWARE or who renewed their membership between 29 March and 2 May.

The current Exco wrote to all the companies that provided services at the EGM, explained the financial situation and asked them to consider making a donation to AWARE. So far, Rajah & Tann have donated $5,000 and Deloitte & Touche $3,000, while Boardroom has yet to respond. Suntec and Ape Communications declined on the grounds that they had, in total, given AWARE a 26.5% discount on the facilities and services provided.

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The review team found that the previous Exco did not adhere fully to the AWARE Constitution and established practices. Also, they could have avoided some of the costs, for instance, by trying to get pro bono legal advice and asking AWARE volunteers to act as scrutineers.

“We will not, however, be taking any action against the previous Exco,” said Ms Lam. “There are several reasons for this. We recognise that they were handicapped by their lack of NGO experience. Secondly, we have been able to recover part of the costs through the generosity of some of the vendors.

“Most importantly, we want to get on with our work – which is to identify and help remove the obstacles that prevent women from realising their full potential. This is, and has always been, AWARE’s agenda.”

State of the Nation’s Women report (6 Jul 2009)

AWARE Media Release 6 July 2009

AWARE launches project to publish State of the Nation’s Women report

AWARE, Singapore’s leading women’s rights advocacy group, is launching a two-year project to reach out to a wide range of women in Singapore and gather their views on the issues that most affect them. These views, together with other research findings, will be published in 2011 in a report titled The State of the Nation’s Women.

In its scope, the State of the Nation’s Women (SNW) report will be similar to the CEDAW shadow reports that AWARE produces and submits to the United Nations. CEDAW, or the Convention for the Elimination of Discrimination Against Women, is regarded as an international bill of rights for women. Countries that sign the convention have to submit national reports at least once every four years on the progress they have made to remove all discrimination against women. Shadow reports are submitted by non-governmental organisations (NGOs) and are considered alongside the national reports by the UN’s CEDAW Committee.

Like the CEDAW report, the SNW report will examine the state of Singapore’s women in areas such as employment, health, family, leadership, and media. But a key difference is that the voices of Singapore’s women will feature prominently in the SNW report.

“Our CEDAW shadow reports have identified the inequalities that still exist and the many issues that need to be addressed, such as the lack of sexual harassment laws, stereotyping in the media, the need for more day care centres for young parents and for greater financial security for older women,” said Dana Lam, AWARE president.

“What we will now do, in parallel with our CEDAW work, is reach out to women in Singapore and get their views on all these issues. We want to get the women to talk and we will listen carefully. We want to find out what they see as the key challenges in their lives, what they would like to see by way of changed or new policies and laws. The State of the Nation’s Women report will cover largely the same ground as the CEDAW reports but it will be from the perspective of a cross-section of Singapore’s women.”

AWARE will reach these women in a variety of ways, including a forum series called ‘Stand Up and Speak Out’. There will also be talks and small group discussions, and at least one major conference. Joint projects and other forms of collaboration with the media and with other NGOs will be explored.

ON-GOING PROJECTS

  • The CEDAW subcommittee will continue to work on AWARE’s 3rd shadow report.
  • The AWARE Training Institute (ATI) will be going full steam ahead with the following programmes to educate, enable and empower women to achieve their highest potential in society:
    • ATI’s Body Image Workshops will help young girls to reflect on body image, and concepts of attractiveness and beauty, to enable them to deal with body image and self esteem issues.
    • Following from AWARE’s major recent report on sexual harassment which showed that more than 50% of respondents had experienced sexual harassment at work, ATI is currently developing workshops to train organisations to deal with sexual harassment and assault. The sexual harassment team comprising HR practitioners, lawyers and social workers target to provide by the end of the year a comprehensive package of services to train and advise companies on policies and practices to prevent and deal with sexual harassment and assault in the workplace.
    • The financial training programme for women is being enhanced. The aim here is to help women with financial empowerment. Further announcements on this will be made shortly.
    • Women in Conversation is an innovative approach to learning. ATI provides safe spaces for women to get together in small groups to learn from each other and to share their personal and common experiences in matters such as sex, dating, marriage, gender discrimination, career development, leadership.
  • AWARE will expand its Direct Services, particularly the Helpline which now operates Mondays to Fridays from 3pm to 9.30pm. With AWARE’s increased membership and a greater pool of volunteers to take the calls, the plan is to:
    1. Extend the operating hours
    2. Handle calls in more languages
    3. Train the Helpline volunteers to handle a wider variety of situations. Collaborations with complementary NGOs may be explored.

    AWARE is also looking into the possibility of extending its Counselling Service and the Legal Clinic.

  • A recently launched project is a study by the Singles Subcommittee to identify the attitudes and public policies that affect how single women live in Singapore. The study will examine various categories of singles including ageing singles and single care-givers of the elderly or children.

 

AWARE TURNS 25

AWARE, which was registered on 25 November 1985, will turn 25 in November 2010. To celebrate its 25 years, AWARE will organise a Festival of Women which will showcase the talent and achievements of Singapore women. This Festival will be spread out over 2010 and 2011, with events that range from the literary and artistic to the entertaining and energetic.