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Vote it if you hate it! Alamak! Award returns!

AWARE’s annual Alamak! Award is back, ‘honouring’ the most sexist behaviour over the past year.

Although we are well into the 21st century, there are still remarks, commercials, and policies that perpetuate gender stereotypes and sexist attitudes. In response, AWARE created the Alamak! Award, searching for the the most annoying, you-have-got-to-be-kidding-me instances of sexism in Singapore.

This year’s nominees were identified and submitted by the public, and shortlisted by AWARE. The winner will be announced at the Big Red Ball, AWARE’s annual fundraising event on 16 September, at the Grand Copthorne Waterfront Hotel!

We want you to choose the winner! Vote for your favourite example of sexism!

 

Who should win the Alamak! Award 2013?

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Meet our nominees..

AH BOYS TO MEN

Your girlfriend has just broken up with you. You are stuck at army camp when you want to be chasing her (even though she told you not to). What do you do to get over a broken heart?

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Why, chop her up into pieces, of course, advises one character on the popular movie, Ah Boys to Men! “There is no point sacrificing so much for her”, he says.

“Women are like clothes, ready to be discarded when you’re done”, says another. “Why are you insisting on wearing this one?”

Anyway, it’s not like you’re losing out on anything – “next time a guy picks her up, he’ll become a rag-and-bones man, because she’s used goods already”, yet another friend advises.

 

NEW PAPER NEW FACE 2013

What do young girls dream of? What fantasy do they want to turn into reality?


Why, their “long-awaited debut” as a model, of course! Whether you’re a toddler or a teenager, the New Paper’s advertisements for its hunt for a ‘New Face’ make it clear – young girls are just waiting for their first catwalk, tiara, or audition.

 

The New Paper, looking for “fresh-faced photographic female modelling talents (aged 15 to 23)”, is here to help! The girls just have to walk into the audition in “fitting top and miniskirt/shorts, high heels and light make-up” to turn their fantasy into reality!

See more details here.

 

 THE SINGAPOREAN FAIRYTALE

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“The Golden Goose was prized for her eggs”, begins a “fairytale” about women’s fertility.

“Alice is wild and reckless, on top of being careless”, begins another, stating that “the extended adolescence of twenty-somethings today has a biological cost for women”.

In a third tale, the Fairy Godmother, described as a “maiden” with ten cats and branded bags “she calls her babies”, demonstrates the fallibility of fertility treatments at later ages.

These ‘Singaporean Fairytales’ are presented by a group of NTU students spreading the message that you really can have it all, if only you choose to. For women, the message is clear: don’t be wild and careless, or choose to not have children. Have babies quickly, and be prized in society!

See more details here.

 

“MISS (UN)DATEABLE”

With Singapore’s total fertility rate as low as ever, Kloudiia Tay, writing for the government’s Social Development Network, has a useful tip for women on how to not be “Miss (Un)Dateable”.

“There’re no ugly women in the world, only lazy ones”, she says.

MissWhen the plain-looking Miss A came to Kloudiia’s dating agency, her belief was confirmed – Miss A’s dates don’t ask her out again, and, horror of horrors, A believes that guys should like her for who she is, and not how she looks.

“See?” Kloudiia says. “That girl just got herself busted out of the game just because she didn’t think that looking good was important.”

Didn’t A know that looking good is a critical requirement for women?

Read the entire article here.

ST. MARGARET’S WIG SAGA

To shave or not to shave, that is the question.

Girls struggle with this every day. All parts of our bodies should be hairless, except, of course, our heads, where luxuriant locks always prove our femininity.

0912_improve_Lorenzo-Morales-2However, five girls from the St. Margaret’s Secondary School, an all-girls school, crossed that line when they shaved their heads to support a cancer charity.

Thankfully, school principal Marion Tan could set them on the right path – with wigs. “The school’s rules do not allow punk, unfeminine or sloppy hairstyles”, says Principal Tan. “It’s very clear in our mission – it’s about their turnout as a young lady”.

Ms Tan knows that we can’t have an influx of bald young ladies in society! By forcing these girls to hide their un-feminine baldness under wigs, she has taught girls everywhere that their appearance is so much more important than raising awareness about cancer, and thus, saved us all.

Read the full story here.

 

Who should win the Alamak! Award 2013? Vote now!

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Sign up for our women’s self-defence programme!

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There are many ways for you to protect yourself in various situations. Learn to use pressure points and body mechanics to take a person down with little effort.

More importantly, gain the self-confidence to know that you can defend yourself while in Singapore or overseas.

The Kapap personal protection system was developed in the 1940s for the Israeli Special Forces. And it has now been condensed into a 10-week workshop specifically designed for women.

Attend a FREE TRIAL CLASS on 15 March, 10am – 12pm to get a better idea of what Kapap is like.

Details:
Date:
15 March
Time:
10am – 12pm
Venue:
AWARE Centre, 5 Dover Crescent, #01-22
Click here to register!

The starting date of the 10-week course will be confirmed after trial class

Attire:
Loose fit and comfortable clothing
Yoga mat for street grappling (optional)

Email publiceducation@aware.org.sg for more information.

Some of the things you will learn include:

• Defensive stance
• Elbow and other strikes
• Pressure points and take downs
• Forearm and body grabs
• Control and restraints
• Street grappling
• Street style kicks and foot trips
• Knife disarming
• Gun disarming
• Improvised weapons i.e., umbrella, pen, purse, water bottle etc

Roundtable: “Alienation and the Disappearance of Things”

This August, we are proud to have Constance Singam, Singaporean writer and activist, at our roundtable discussion.

The theme for this month’s roundtable is Alienation and the Disappearance of Things”, excerpts from her memoir “Where I was: A Memoir from the Margins”

EVENT DETAILS
Date: Saturday, August 17th
Time: 3pm
Please click here to register!

About the Speaker:
Connie-1Constance Singam is an author and civil society activist. She began her career in journalism, before taking a degree in English Literature in her forties, and a Master’s degree in her sixties. Her civil society work has focused on women’s rights and social justice. Since its inception in 1985, she has been closely associated with the Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE), Singapore’s leading gender equality advocacy group, including serving as its President for three terms.  She is also a co-founder of civil society groups such as TWC1 and TWC2. She has been a columnist in several publications. Her works include “A history of the TWC: Building Social Space in Singapore”, “Re-Presenting Singapore Women” which she co-edited and has just released her memoir “Where I was: A Memoir from the Margins”. She blogs at: http://connie.sg
About the Book: “Where I Was is a rich, entertaining and compelling account of the life of an extraordinary woman. In a land of many cultures, many races, many religions; in a state where politics and public policies impinge, sometimes callously, on the daily lives of its denizens, Constance Singam is an individual marginalised many times over by her status as a woman, an Indian, a widow and a civil society activist. Through humorous and moving accounts, Constance captures in words the images of the people, places and events that are the source of her most powerful memories. These images are connected to key turning points in her personal journey, set against or within the context of important historical events.”

For further information, please contact Sahar at sahar@aware.org.sg

Community Theatre At Its Best!

The response to the premiere of Just A Bad Day, the flagship project of the We Can! End All Violence Against Women campaign, was overwhelming. On June 22nd, around 220 people came down to the Substation Theatre to watch our forum theatre piece on violence against women. The evening show was brimming with people, some of whom had to sit on the floor because we were sold out.  Our guest-of-honour, Member of Parliament Mr Zainudin Nordin, graced the evening show with his presence and committed to being a We Can! Change Maker – taking a pledge to practice and promote non-violence.

Among the audience were Member of Parliament Ellen Lee, Workers’ Party Chairman Sylvia Lim and the family of the late Raj Verma. Raj Verma was a founding member of AWARE and is considered an icon of the spirit of feminism and social justice. Several Change Makers who were touched by the campaign came down to show their support as well.

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It was only in May this year when a team of enthusiastic Change Makers came together to devise the play. These volunteers, from all walks of life in Singapore, came forward to share their stories of violence, oppression and vulnerability. They went through an intensive 40-hour workshop that included basic theatre exposure and a Change Maker workshop, as part of the We Can! campaign. Through this powerful experience, the Change Makers were able to mold compelling characters who mirrored their struggles, their society.

Many of the cast and crew members of Just A Bad Day have little or no experience in theatre. This includes lead actresses Rachel Chung and Jasmine Hu.

The play contains numerous scenes that are familiar to all of us: A woman blusters into her office, late. A grandmother waits for her family to come home for dinner. Friends gather for a boisterous birthday celebration. Yet, in all these apparently normal situations, there are moments of deep discomfort and tension, sometimes culminating in outright violation. Conflicts escalate with seemingly no resolution in sight.

But then, each scene was replayed, and the audience was given the chance to stop it at any point they felt something was not right; to step into the role of one of the characters and try to make it right. The forum theatre formatis not only thought-provoking, but also allows for audience discussion on important issues, with the help of a facilitator who took them into the world of the play and gave them a chance to change the injustice they see. In turn, the actors had to respond to the new situation, showing the audience that their actions had consequences. This highlighted some of the difficulties faced by characters in the play.

IMG_7872-1Many members of the audience were extremely eager to jump in when they could. One of the most memorable interventions came towards the end of the evening, when a witty audience member stepped in to replace a character who was a powerless bystander to “dude talk” that was quickly morphing into an ominous situation. Through his eloquence and a pinch of realism, he managed to convince the other characters to change their point of view while speaking their language.

12-year-old Theo Chen intervened, twice, replacing the perpetrators of violence in the workplace and family scenarios to show the audience how it’s done.

Despite being inexperienced actors, the cast did a fantastic job, especially when it came to improvisations during interventions. It is no easy feat to think up responses on their feet while keeping in character. It was clear that all the actors poured their hearts into their role as they interacted with audience members, young and old.

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Quen Wong, who also played one of the lead roles in the play, said of the experience, “The artistic process was liberating. But more than that, this was a group of people who had come together in the first place because we had witnessed or experienced unspeakable violence in their own lives.” Quen played a grandmother who constantly chided her daughter-in-law for not being a “good wife” according to her traditional expectations.

By the end of the play, there were new sign-ups for the We Can! Change Maker workshops, and requests from the audience to bring the Forum Theatre Tour to their community!

Just A Bad Day is definitely off to a great start. Plans are underway to bring the play to audiences across Singapore. Schools, Family Service Centres and organizations such as the National Council of Social Services have shown interest in future partnerships, which is extremely encouraging for the We Can! team.

 

 

“Just a Bad Day” Forum Theatre Performance at *SCAPE

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 JUST A BAD DAY

A Forum Theatre Performance
Date: Sunday, 7 July
Time: 730 – 930pm
Venue: Gallery@ Scape

Limited seats available. Click here to register!

 

 

 

 

An Intimate, Thought-Provoking Play

They are everyday people with ordinary lives. You’ve seen them. They’re your neighbours, your colleagues, your mahjong kakis. Their problems are nothing new. But now, they’re asking you to step in.

Three women are faced with different threats – at home, in the office, and at a party. When familiar environments turn hostile and seemingly harmless situations escalate, what choices are they left with?

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This forum theatre piece was created by a team of volunteers from all walks of life in Singapore. They came forward to share their stories of violence, oppression and vulnerability. In a powerful workshop led by theatre practitioner Li Xie, the volunteers molded compelling characters who mirrored their struggles, their society. Your society.

 

 

‘Just A Bad Day’ promises to be a stimulating encounter. Through this intimate performance, we hope to provoke thought and discussion on the less tangible forms of violence against women that continue to be a reality in Singapore. Come and listen to these experiences, share your perspectives and reconsider your assumptions about gender roles, norms and violence against women. And maybe you will discover possibilities, areas you where you can make change in your own life.

 

Share It! Community Weekend

The play will be performed on the last day of *SCAPE’s Share It! Community Weekend, an event that promotes youth volunteerism and involvement in community service. Please see the link below for more information on the weekend events and performances.

Date: 5 – 7 July
Time: 5 July (6-9pm), and 6-7 July (2-9pm)
Venue: Scape @ 2 Orchard Link

Click here for more information.

 

For further information, please contact Sahar at sahar@aware.org.sg or call 6779 7137.

 

First-Ever Ladies Captain’s Ball Tournament!

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If you love exercise and want to spend quality time with your mum or best friends, sign up for the Ladies Captain’s Ball Bash!

 

EVENT DETAILS

DATE: 6th July, 2013

TIME: 9am

LOCATION: Kampong Ubi Community Centre

 

There are three categories in this tournament:

1. Mother-Daughter

FEE: $60 for members, $70 for non-members

2. Ladies open

FEE: $60 for members, $70 for non-members

3. Under-12 girls

FEE: $50

All participants will be given a goody bag!

 

About Sportz Ignite:

Set up in 2003 by two ladies with the aim of encouraging everyone to lead a healthy lifestyle, Sportz Ignite has since organized both sports and character development programmes.

Click here for more information!

 

To Register:

Please contact Mae at sportzignite@yahoo.com.sg or call Kampong Ubi Community Centre at 67459919. Download the registration form here.

Registration closes on 28th June, 2013.

 

Roundtable: Polygamous Marriages

rings-1In polygamous relationships, the concept of “giliran”, where the wives each take their turn in having exclusive time with the husband, is often practiced and forwarded as a measure of ’just treatment’ by the husband. This presentation explores this issue within the context of turn-taking in polygamous marriages.

“Giliran” will be explored through the perspectives of husbands and wives, in terms of how they understand this practice, the processes of negotiation in coming to agreements about “giliran” and to what extent they adhere to agreements about “giliran”.

The presentation will examine the living arrangement of polygamous families and the husbands’ perspective on demands on their time compared to money, communication and love.

EVENT DETAILS

Date: Thursday, June 20

Time: 7.30pm

Venue: AWARE Centre

Speaker: Shanthi Thambiah (Ph.D)

Register for this event here

About The Speaker:
Shanthi Thambiah (Ph.D) is Associate Professor and is a lecturer at the Gender Studies Programme, University of Malaya. She obtained her Phd in 1995 from the University of Hull and her M. Phil from the University of Cambridge in 1989. Her areas of specialization are social anthropology and gender studies. She has conducted research and published widely on cultural change and changing gender relations in indigenous communities in Sarawak and amongst the Orang Asli in Peninsula Malaysia. Her current research interests are in the area of gender, family and work and in gender and public policies. From April to July 2013 she is attached to the Asia Research Institute, National University of Singapore as a Senior Research Fellow researching on the topic “Questioning the Normative through Migration: Muslim Female Migrant Workers’ in Malaysia Reflecting on Men as Providers and Protectors of Women”.

Get ready for AWARE’s Big Red Ball on Sept 16

 

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AWARE’s annual fundraiser, the Big Ball, is back with a vengeance!

We are delighted to launch our signature fundraising 
event for 2013, Big Red Ball!

Save This Date!
16 September 2013 at the Grand Copthorne Waterfront Hotel

Building on rave reviews from last year’s
 Supersonic Big Ball, which had guests in stitches over the Chestnuts’ antics, the fantastic performances by volunteers and staff, and great food and wine, we have raised the stakes this year and guarantee even more excitement!  The Chestnuts are back, promising to be even better!

What did the attendees say about last year’s Big Ball?

“Loved the Chestnuts’ spoofs”
“It was just the right mix of fun (the Chestnuts primarily) and the serious.”
“I really enjoyed myself and the good thing about AWARE is that everyone seems genuinely happy and passionate….its very refreshing”
“I enjoyed the programme very much. It was especially great to see AWARE volunteers in the various entertainment items.”

For more details, visit the website https://aware.org.sg/bigredball/!
In the meantime, don’t forget to nominate deserving candidates for the AWARE Awards and the Alamak! Award. Find out more here.

Roundtable: Housing Singaporeans – Should unmarried people be lesser citizens?

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Date: Monday, July 29 (updated)

Time: 7.30pm

Venue: AWARE Centre

Speakers: AWARE’s Singles Sub-committee – Chew I-Jin, Ailin Mao, Chu Hoi Yee, Aziza Sheerin, Chang Rui Shan and Raudah Abdul Rashid

 

Register for this event here

The Singles Sub-committee of the Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE) has been doing research on the quality of life of single Singaporeans through interviews, case study analysis and policy analysis.

The sub-committee identifies single individuals as those who have never married, are divorced, widowed or are single parents. This is indeed HDB’s definition of “singles”, indicating that their policies impact on all those falling under this definition. This segment of society forms at least 20% of the population between the ages 30 and 65, a sizeable proportion of the Singapore citizen population.

Our research finds that such persons are discriminated against in various governmental public schemes that favour heterosexual nuclear families with young children. This exclusion based on marital status penalises single individuals caring for relatives or friends who do not fall within the Government’s narrow definition of “family.” This has implications for the care of our ageing population and the care-giving capacity of Singapore “families”.

The sub-committee intends to advocate for specific policy changes that will enable single individuals to live active and fulfilling lives, as well as to care for dependents without being discriminated against. Such changes require a more appropriate understanding of “families” and care-giving” that is aligned with our everyday needs and realities. At the roundtable, the sub-committee will share preliminary research findings and a draft of our policy recommendations.