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Our sincere thanks to Kwan Im Thong Hood Cho Temple

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AWARE thanks the Kwan Im Thong Hood Cho Temple for its generous donation in support of  AWARE’s  Support Services, Sexual Assault Befrienders Services, and  the We Can! End All Violence Against Women Campaign.

The Temple, located at Waterloo Street, is one of the oldest Buddhist temples in Singapore, having been built in 1884. It is well known for its philanthropic work and has been an active contributor to social, educational causes and arts in Singapore.

Since 2008, the Temple has contributed substantially to  the operations and development of  AWARE’s Support Services. This financial support has enabled our Support Services to grow its staff  and volunteer capacity to increase its outreach to help more women and their families.

Compared to 2007, the number of calls received by the Helpline has increased by 73.41 per cent; counselling cases have increased five-fold and Legal Clinic cases have doubled. The funding has not only allowed us to increase our resources to address demand, but has also improved the quality of Support Services.

Generous donations from the Temple have supported AWARE in its efforts to reach out to the Chinese speaking community. Through the introduction of its first Mandarin Helpline training course, we now have an increased pool of Mandarin speaking Helpliners to meet the needs of our Chinese speaking callers.

This year, the funds will be used to improve existing Support Services facilities, and to increase the capacity of the Sexual Assault Befriender’s Service (SABS). Funds will also be channeled towards the We Can! End All Violence against Women Campaign. This campaign marks the 22nd anniversary of our Helpline and is AWARE’s major initiative to end violence against women by changing the social norms and attitudes that perpetuate gender violence.

 

We Can! Singapore brings you ‘Just A Bad Day’

shadowThey are everyday people with ordinary lives. You’ve seen them. They’re your neighbours, your colleagues, your mahjong kakis. Their problems are nothing new. But now, they’re asking you to step in.

Three women are faced with different threats – at home, in the office, and at a party. When familiar environments turn hostile and seemingly harmless situations escalate, what choices are they left with?

This forum theatre piece was created by a team of volunteers from all walks of life in Singapore, who came forward to share their stories of violence, oppression and vulnerability.  In a powerful workshop led by theatre practitioner Li Xie, the volunteers molded compelling characters who mirrored their struggles, their society. Your society.

‘Just A Bad Day’ promises to be a stimulating encounter. Through this intimate performance, we hope to provoke thought and discussion on the less tangible forms of violence against women that continue to be a reality in Singapore.

Come and listen to these experiences, share your perspectives and reconsider your assumptions about gender roles, norms and violence against women. And maybe you will discover possibilities – areas you where you can make change in your own life.

shadow 3EVENT DETAILS:

Title: Just A Bad Day

Date: 22nd June

Time: 3pm (matinee) and 8pm (click on the showtimes to purchase your tickets)

Venue: The Substation Theatre, 45 Armenian Street, Singapore 179936

Ticket Price: $5 (all proceeds will go towards the We Can! End All Violence Against Women Campaign)

Presented by We Can! Singapore, produced by Drama Box.

Directed by: Li Xie

Devised by: Rachel Chung, Navin Elankovan, Fairuz Atiqah, Sherlin Giri, Jasmine Hu, Eqtaffaq Hussain, Joanna Lee, Kirubaashini Kanesan, Lim Wei Klinsmann, Wendy Low, Raksha Mahtani, Mark Ng, Yanchun Ong, Elena Siew, Emmanuel Soo, Jillian Tan, Keith Tan, Lupin Tan Yong Kang, Rita Teo, Ting Wei Chang, Erina Wong & Quen Wong.

Supported by: The Substation and the family of Raj Verma.

Click here to purchase tickets for the matinee show.

Click here to purchase tickets for the evening show.

About Forum Theatre

The forum theatre format calls for active participation and problem-solving from the audience. It aims to show people how they can change their world. Beyond voicing their opinions, audience members are invited on stage to participate within the world of the play!

 For more information, write to sahar@aware.org.sg.

Annual General Meeting on 1st June

agmThe AWARE Annual General Meeting (AGM) this year will be held on June 1, Saturday, at 2pm at the AWARE Centre.

Mark the date now in your calendar and keep the afternoon free. Besides finding out more about AWARE’s activities in 2012, this will also be a great chance to  catch up with old friends and make new ones.

A formal Notice about the AGM will be issues to members at least three weeks before the AGM. If you have not renewed your membership yet, please renew your membership now by logging in using the sidebar on the right.

No new membership applications will be accepted from May 11 to June 1. We will resume accepting applications on June 2, after the AGM. Please note that this does not apply to membership renewals. Renewals will still be accepted in this period.

For full details, please check the Notice that you will receive by email or post.

To confirm your attendance at the AGM, please RSVP here.

If you have any questions about the AGM, please write to aware@aware.org.sg.

We look forward to seeing you at the AGM.

EVENT DETAILS

Date: June 1, 2013

Time: 2pm

Place: AWARE Centre

THIS EVENT IS OPEN TO MEMBERS ONLY.

Roundtable: Singaporean Views on Elective Egg Freezing

cryopreservationFreezing oocytes, or cyropreservation, is a process which has been used in various parts of the world to preserve a woman’s fertility. The process involves In-Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) and the cooling of eggs to sub-zero temperatures (vitrification). In Singapore, only married women under the age of 45 can undergo IVF treatment. Single women in Singapore are not allowed to undergo IVF treatment unless medically necessitated in order to preserve fertility (e.g. in cases of cancer).

At this roundtable, Bioethics Legal Group for Reproductive Issues in Singapore (BELRIS) will discuss its findings from two surveys conducted from 2012 to 2013. The findings were published in the ‘Report – Survey Conducted to Evaluate the Position on Elective Oocyte Freezing in Singapore’. It will reveal the positions of Singaporeans, and particularly, Singaporean women’s views on elective oocyte freezing in Singapore. The Report is suggestive of a positive attitude towards elective egg freezing and provides a snapshot of current Singaporean attitudes in the context of recent media coverage on the issue of reproduction in Singapore.

EVENT DETAILS

Date: Thursday, 16th May 2013

Time: 7.30pm

Venue: AWARE Centre, Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22 S’pore (130005)

About the speaker:

Hapreet K. Bedi, is Executive Director of BELRIS, an independent, non-profit organization that aims to provide measured, well-balanced research, dialogue and opinion on various reproductive technologies and treatments in Singapore. She is a Singaporean with a Masters in Medical Law (with Merit) from the University of Glasgow, Scotland, U.K., and a Juris Doctorate from Northeastern University School of Law, Boston, U.S.A. She also has achieved her Bachelor of Arts, with Majors in Economics and International Relations, graduating Magna Cum Laude and Phi Beta Kappa from Sweet Briar College, Virginia, U.S.A.

To register for this event, please click here.

Roundtable Discussion: Violence Against Women

violence against womenLast year, AWARE commissioned a group of final year Ngee Ann Polytechnic students to conduct a survey on public attitudes towards violence against women.

This roundtable discussion will highlight the survey findings and recommendations on the issue.

Some of the issues that will be raised in the course of the discussion are:

  1. Does violence extend beyond the physical?
  2. Why does society tolerate violence?
  3. How do we support the victim?

The survey was conducted as part of the We Can! Singapore Campaign. This campaign aims to change public perceptions and attitudes that enable violence against women. We Can! aims to generate a mass social movement through empowering individuals to inspire person-to-person change as well as building community alliances to reduce public acceptance of violence against women.

EVENT DETAILS

Date: Wednesday, 24th April 2013

Time: 7.30pm

Venue: AWARE Centre, Block 5 Dover Crescent #01-22 S’pore (130005)

To register, please click here.

Managers’ Guide To Dealing With Workplace Sexual Harassment

 

If you are looking for more info on sexual harassment, see here

 

Does your workplace have a clear sexual harassment policy in place and provide adequate training for managers to deal with such situations? If the answer is “no”, be part of the solution. Share what you learn in this course with your company’s Human Resources department.

 

You don’t need to be a victim to care about making your workplace a safe environment. Many victims of sexual harassment suffer silently because they fear repercussions. And those who do speak up often have to deal with inexperienced HR personnel and managers, which makes their situation even more frustrating. But inexperience can be easily remedied with training.

Aware has offered this managers’ course on how to deal with workplace sexual harassment since 2009. The instructor is Ms Veronica Wong, a personal life coach and specialized project consultant for Human Resource Management (HRM) and Training. She has over 20 years of HRM experience and is a certified counsellor skilled in Choice Therapy, Reality Therapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Besides AWARE, she has also shared her expertise with non-profit organizations like the Kaki Bukit Prison School and the Special Needs Trust Company.

In this course, you will learn:

  • Basic knowledge of sexual harassment, including myths and misconceptions, key characteristics, types of harassment and why it occurs in the workplace.

 

  • Skills that will help you to investigate and conduct an interview with the victim and the perpetrator.
  • Tools you can use to implement an organisational policy on sexual harassment.

 

Quotes from previous participants:

“Very interesting. I have learned so much about sexual harassment.”

“The trainer delivered the information very well and made the class very enjoyable.”

“Everyone must have this knowledge!”

When: 30 August,2013 Friday (1pm-6pm)

Where: AWARE Centre, 5 Dover Crescent

Fee: Single, S$100, pair: S$180

Reserve your spot here.

For more information, go to Workplace Sexual Harassment microsite or e-mail publiceducation@aware.org.sg

What’s Your Wish For Women’s Day?

This International Women’s Day, we asked our Facebook fans what was one gender stereotype they wished they could change, and here’s what we got!gender stereotype 1

Siobhan Irving: Having ovaries does not give me a shoe fetish: I have 2 feet and a grand total of 4 pairs of shoes.

Mu Lao Hu: That women are all dying to get married and have children.

Joshua Tan: That boys and girls have to like different types of toys.

Halima Gose: Men are stronger than women.

Shazina Zaini: That a woman expressing any sort of strong emotion is overreacting and being hysterical.

Yeong Sheau Shyan: That women aren’t suppose to participate in certain sports eg. football, rugby etc.

Aarti Olivia Dubey: That a woman with a colorful vernacular and who wears tight clothing is called a loud mouthed slut. That all men are supposed to be macho. Okay that’s two things then :D

Tanneke Zeeuw: damn – do you have ANY IDEA how hard it is to just pick one?
I want them all to GO!
I don’t want to hear: ‘Woman can’t…’ or ‘Men can…’, or even vice versa

Sean Chan: Pink for Girls and Blue for Boys

Gillian Nelson: That there are obvious and huge assumptions made about people based on their gender at all bothers me. I am more than the shape of my genitals, and so is my husband.

Kokila Annamalai: That guys can’t control their sexual urges. That’s offensive to all the guys I know who very well can, and undermines the need for consent.

Martina Par: “Boys will be boys” hence girls will be girls.

Sumedha Jalote: All women are looking for serious relationships, marriage and kids, and never want casual sex. This one always bothers me, especially when combined with people saying that women have “tricks” to “trap” a man into marriage. The stereotype that all guys want is sex and want to “escape” serious relationships and marriage is also equally stupid.

Tania De Rozario: I would like people to stop assuming that gender does and should conform to sex.

Janet Jia-Ee Chui: That women (and only women) are emotional and from that, irrational.

Yenyen Lee: The image women should maintain in order to seduce men. Slim tall Figure, beautiful Face…as what flooded advertisements from slimming centre Hair Salon, plastic surgery recommend . The Korean Model

Lee Yuen: That when we make tough decisions, men are being strong, and women bitches.

Indrani Vidyarthi: That women need protection (this is more relevant in India where I come from) and hence segregate them from men eg reserved seats in buses, reserved compartments in trains, purdah to hide from the male gaze, and now a womans’ only bank!! No, women need society to simply see women as no less equal than men, and treat us with respect and dignity like any other human being should be treated.

Daphne Ong: That women are either asexual creatures that only want love but not sex, or they are horny “sluts”. Real women are complex beings of love, sex, and humanity, and not just either of the above extremes. We’re not just heart or vagina, but a whole lotta brain.

Veronica Nathan: That women are emotional more than the men!

Is there a gender stereotype that bothers you? Write to us at kokila@aware.org.sg and let us know, or leave a comment on this post. We’ll be adding to this list till the end of March!

Workshop Series: Gender Matters

A guide to understanding feminism and concepts of gender in ourselves and our society

The word “feminism” can elicit extreme reactions. Some completely identify with it, while many say: “I believe in gender equality but I am not a feminist.”

What exactly is feminism? The definition can vary from feminist to feminist, and many misconceptions prevail.

To help women and men understand feminism better, AWARE has put together a 3-part workshop series that explores the history of the feminist movement, how gender roles are shaped over time, the gender messages that are embedded in popular culture, and what feminism means today.

This thought-provoking series includes lectures and group exercises, and allows each participant to evaluate their own concepts of gender and how they perceive the other sex.

Men, particularly fathers, are strongly encouraged to participate.

Click on the links to register:

Workshop 1 – History of feminism
By: Dr Mandakini Arora
6 November 2013, 7.30pm-9.30pm
Register here

Workshop 2 – Reclaiming the F-word. What does feminism mean to me?
By: Corinna Lim

Workshop 3–The Princess Ideology Debunking the Myths
By: Dr. Chitra Sankaran

Check back for the schedules.

Venue: AWARE Centre

Workshops can be booked individually.

Fees

Non-members
$10/person
$15 for two persons

Members
$5/person
$8  for two persons

**To enjoy their discount, members need to log in with their username and password on the AWARE website to sign up for the workshop. Click Forgot Password to have your username and password emailed to you.

For more information, email publiceducation@aware.org.sg or call 6779-7137.

S.H.OUT Flash Mob – A Roaring Success!

By Sahar Pirzada and Asiyah Arif

 One Billion Rising is a global strike – encouraging men and women around the world to take to the streets on V-day, singing, dancing, lighting a candle, to demand an end to violence against women. We wanted to stand up and be counted too.

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At 1:00pm on Valentine’s Day, 70 people walked through Raffles Place, with big bunches of black balloons looming over them. On cue, they all froze in place, their hands dramatically covering their mouths to represent the silence of victims of workplace sexual harassment. A minute later, they shouted “SHOUT sexual harassment out!” in synchrony, released their balloons into the stormy sky, and melted back into the crowds.

The flash mob, staged in conjunction with the global One Billion Rising movement this V-Day, aimed to raise awareness about sexual harassment in workplaces in Singapore as part of the S.H.OUT! campaign. The campaign, launched by AWARE on 25th November, the International Day to End Violence Against Women, last year, aims to increase public awareness about the invisible problem and lobby for greater legal protection for victims.flash mob 7

The idea of staging a flash mob was tabled in December 2012, but it was only when the organising team received an email about the One Billion Rising event in late January that we decided to align our efforts with a worldwide cause. One Billion Rising is a global strike – encouraging men and women around the world to take to the streets on V-day, singing, dancing, lighting a candle, to demand an end to violence against women. We wanted to stand up and be counted too.

What followed were two weeks of endless emails to organisations, volunteers, printers and designers, and more than a few panic attacks. We had to get 50 volunteers out, in the middle of a work day, to take a stand in public against a taboo issue. It didn’t seem like we could pull it off.

flash mob 10On 14 February, we were extremely moved to see so many people turned up, 60 volunteers in all, many of whom had taken the time to come down to Raffles Place during their lunch hour, and some from their offices at the farthest corners of the island.

One volunteer, who had rushed down from her workplace in Jurong, said that it was the knowledge that she was making a difference that compelled her to come. She was delighted to meet other like minded people at the event, and felt that although “the fight is not over…the feeling of not fighting alone does help to continue.”

Even the pouring rain on Valentine’s Day couldn’t dampen our spirits as we came together. “I thought the rehearsals were great and despite the rain, everyone was in good spirits.  Good seeing everyone join in!” said Melissa, one of the volunteers.

flash mob 4Jane shared, “I would have participated in the OBR (One Billion Rising) movement wherever I was, but that I happened to be home for a week and that I could lend my voice to our local movement was personally very gratifying. Most of all, though, I was in awe of the mob’s organizers and all the volunteers who had taken time from their busy lives to contribute to a cause we all stand firm in. The rain didn’t drown our voices out! Not even the tiniest bit!”

Were we stressed out at moments? Sure. But we enjoyed every minute of it. Every minute spent bringing the flash mob to life was a minute spent fighting violence against women and a minute spent towards increasing protection for victims workplace sexual harassment. That was a powerful motivation and we are so thankful to have been given the opportunity to work on such an important campaign.

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 The next lap for us is to persuade companies and grassroots organizations to come on board to support S.H.OUT! and take our message to their management and employees. We’re on the lookout for more exciting opportunities to spread awareness about sexual harassment and change the status quo, so keep your eyes peeled. Maybe you’ll see a black balloon flying past your window soon… ;)

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