Author: Comms Executive

Closure of WCC and SACC services (28 Oct to 29 Oct)

The Women’s Care Centre (WCC) and Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) helplines will be closed on 28 October to 29 October 2025.

Services for WCC and SACC will fully resume on Thursday, 30 October 2025.


If you have experienced sexual assault within the last 72 hours, you may refer to this page for suggested actions.

If you require support, you may reach out to these alternatives:

  • National Anti-Violence Helpline (24-hour, for reporting of domestic and sexual violence): 1800 777 0000
  • Samaritans of Singapore (24-hour, for coping with self-harm or suicidal ideation):
  • IMH Mindline (24-hour, for mental health crisis): 1771
  • ComCare Helpline (7am-12am, to locate your nearest Family Service Centre): 1800 222 0000
  • Care Corner Helpline (10am-10pm, for emotional support for Mandarin speakers): 1800 3535 800
  • Community Justice Centre (Mon-Fri, 10am-12.30pm, 1.30pm-4pm, 20 minutes free legal information, walk ins only, first-come-first-serve basis)
  • Law Society Pro Bono Legal Clinic Services (Free legal information, appointments needed)
  • Police 999, Medical assistance 995 (If you or someone you know is in danger or has an emergency)

We seek your kind understanding and patience during this period.

2025 August closure dates for Women’s Care Centre and Sexual Assault Care Centre

The Women’s Care Centre (WCC) and Sexual Assault Care Centre (SACC) will be undergoing closure from 25 August to 29 August 2025.

Services for WCC and SACC will fully resume on Monday, 1 September 2025.


If you have experienced sexual assault within the last 72 hours, you may refer to this page for suggested actions.

If you require support, you may reach out to these alternatives:

  • National Anti-Violence Helpline (24-hour, for reporting of domestic and sexual violence): 1800 777 0000
  • Samaritans of Singapore (24-hour, for coping with self-harm or suicidal ideation):
  • IMH Mindline (24-hour, for mental health crisis): 1771
  • ComCare Helpline (7am-12am, to locate your nearest Family Service Centre): 1800 222 0000
  • Care Corner Helpline (10am-10pm, for emotional support for Mandarin speakers): 1800 3535 800
  • Community Justice Centre (Mon-Fri, 10am-12.30pm, 1.30pm-4pm, 20 minutes free legal information, walk ins only, first-come-first-serve basis)
  • Law Society Pro Bono Legal Clinic Services (Free legal information, appointments needed)
  • Police 999, Medical assistance 995 (If you or someone you know is in danger or has an emergency)

We seek your kind understanding and patience during this period.

It’s our 40th Anniversary and you’re invited to the Mother of All Balls!

AWARE’s Annual Ball is back on Saturday, 25 October 2025, and we’re throwing the Mother of All Balls!

This year, we take a nod to the subversiveness of literal and metaphorical subcultures, where life continues to grow and emerge in all circumstances through subtle, powerful Mothers. From individuals who have built and nurtured safe communities amidst violence, to the microcosm of underground networks that spring to life after decay, join us in this explosive celebration as we celebrate the legacy of countless women who have built AWARE into a potent and galvanising force for change. 

Date: Saturday, 25 October 2025, 6:15pm till late
Venue: Island Ballroom, Shangri-La, Orchard Singapore
Dress Themes:

  • Mother of All ____ (you decide!)
  • Hidden Element(s)
  • Ballsy

Celebrating with you in wit and style are our hosts, Pam Oei and Andrew Marko, alongside director Selena Tan and writer Joel Tan, who will be bringing a sharp and cheeky performance to the stage for AWARE’s big 4-0. Crowd favourite and DJ icon Aldrin Quek will also be back on board with slick tunes to end off the night in grand fashion.

Book your table now | Donate


Why support the Mother of All Balls?

The Ball contributes to 20% of AWARE’s funding and keeps our work alive. We aim to raise $1 million to support critical services for women, and drive research, advocacy and education for a safer, more gender equal Singapore. Every table, seat, and donation supports our work in:

  • Support services, which help more than 5,000 women in need each year.
  • Advocacy work — some recent wins (to which we have contributed and celebrated) include increased parental leave, and improved legislation against family violence and workplace discrimination.
  • Engagement, development, and education of various communities with our training programmes to address sexual violence, workplace harassment and discrimination, and other pressing gender issues.

How to join the Mother of All Balls?

Join the Ball and support our work by booking tables and seats, or by making a donation:

  • Catalyst Table: $5,400 (with two bottles of wine)
  • Ally Table: $8,400 (with two bottles of wine, complimentary raffle tickets)
  • Champion Table: $12,400 (with three bottles of wine, VIP door gift, complimentary raffle tickets)
  • Trailblazer Table: $24,000 (with three bottles of wine, 1 bottle of champagne, VIP door gift, other special perks)

Individual seats are available for Catalyst, Ally and Champion Tables.

Early birds (first 20 tables) will also receive an additional complimentary bottle of wine. [ALL REDEEMED]

All purchases and donations will enjoy a 250% tax deduction, and your contribution will be 100% matched by Tote Board. Show your support by making a donation of any amount via the following ways:

  • Give.Asia
  • Scan the QR code or PayNow to UEN S85SS0089B (ASSOCIATION OF W F A A R)


Looking for Cash or In-Kind Sponsors

We are looking for cash or in-kind sponsors for our Silent Auction and Raffle. If you would like to support as a sponsor or refer your friends, please contact Bevin at ball@aware.org.sg.

We are hiring! Research Executive [FILLED]

Position: Researcher (Executive/Snr Executive)
Department: Advocacy and Research (AR)
Salary range: SGD$3,500 – 4,000
Term: Full-time
Starting date: 1 August 2025

Are you interested in helping to change the society we live in, to further gender equality in Singapore? Do you enjoy doing research and analysis? Do you want to advocate for change? If so, then we are looking for you!

AWARE wants to hire an organised and efficient individual with good research, analysis and writing skills to join our Advocacy and Research team (AR). The AR department develops and implements AWARE’s strategies for advocacy for legal, policy and social change.

The Researcher will support the operations of the department by carrying out research and policy analysis to support AWARE’s engagement with decision-makers, the public, the media and other stakeholders on legal, policy and social reform. This is an exciting opportunity to be part of the cutting-edge work for equality and human rights which has been AWARE’s mission for nearly 40 years.

Reporting to the Director of AR, the Researcher will:

  • Carry out research, analysis and fact-finding in relation to laws, policies and practices to support AR’s policy advocacy activities, media work and long-term research projects
  • Supporting AWARE’s policy advocacy work through parliamentary monitoring
  • Assist in drafting and editing responses to advocacy documents including responses to government consultations, recommendations and position papers, and communications with policy-makers
  • Support the Communications Manager in implementing AWARE’s advocacy, research and communications plan as part of AWARE’s strategic plan, including press statements, op-eds, and media responses
  • Help build partnerships and alliances with key stakeholders in achieving AWARE’s goal of building a gender-equitable society
  • Participate actively as a member of AWARE’s advocacy team, e.g. through contribution to strategic and operational discussions, representing AWARE at relevant external events and meetings, and organising events related to research and advocacy goals

Preferred Candidate Profile

  • Singapore Citizen/Permanent Resident
  • Minimum of at least 2 years of related experience, ideally in public policy and research, in project coordination, conducting primary and secondary research and analysis
  • Relevant degree, preferably in sociology, economics, history, law, politics, or other public policy-related field
  • Excellent research and analysis skills, and understanding of gender-related policies
  • Excellent verbal and written communication skills in English; good communications skills in Malay, Tamil and/or Mandarin are a plus
  • Strong understanding of general political and policy environment in Singapore
  • Strong interpersonal skills and commitment to being a team player
  • Strong sense of initiative with good judgement to solve problems independently
  • Strong belief in gender equality, human rights and the values of AWARE

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Click here to submit your application.

Please note that, due to the large number of applications, only shortlisted applicants will be contacted for an interview. If you have any questions about this position, please email careers@aware.org.sg.

Exploring the intersections between gender, ageing and inequality at the Tsao Foundation panel

Sugidha Nithiananthan (second from the right) standing with fellow panelists at the Population Association of Singapore (PAS) 2025 Annual Meeting on 16 May. Photo courtesy of PAS.

This panel recap was written by the Population Association of Singapore, and was originally published on their website.

The Population Association of Singapore (PAS) held its third annual meeting from 15 to 16 May 2025 on the theme ‘Demography and Inequality: Intersecting Paths.’ As part of this conference, the Tsao Foundation, together with its partners from the Singapore Alliance for Women in Ageing (SAWA) hosted a panel on the theme ‘The Intersections between Gender, Ageing and Inequality’ on 16 May 2025.

The panel aimed to draw attention to how the intersection of gender and age throughout the life course results in gendered inequalities faced by women in old age; and the need for policies that recognise and address the intersection of gender, ageing and inequality.

Focusing on the intersection of gender and age at work, Dr Supriti Bezbaruah (on behalf of Ms Susana Harding, Senior Director, International Longevity Centre Singapore, Tsao Foundation) presented on ‘Ageing and Gender Intersectionality Evidence From a Cross-sectional Study of Mature and Older Singaporean Workers.’ Dr Bezbaruah used data from a survey of mature and older workers conducted by the Tsao Foundation in 2023-2024 that showed that female workers are significantly more likely to report age discrimination at work compared to males. Lower-income, older women (above 50 years) in particular, were most vulnerable to discrimination, underlining how intersections of age, gender and income can compound inequalities. However, no significant gender differences were found in selection and hiring practices. Gender was also not a significant factor influencing improvements in employment outcomes after training. Instead, other factors, such as perceptions of employability and informal learning had a greater impact on employment outcomes. The findings point to a two-fold approach to policy interventions. First, it is essential to address gender and age discrimination at work, through a combination of legislation, changes in workplace practices and cultures, and a focus on changing employer mindsets, among others. Second, training programmes must be paired with policies to address workplace discrimination. Furthermore, as training does not in itself guarantee better employment outcomes, there should be greater emphasis on encouraging informal learning and developing programmes that boost perceptions of ageing and employability. Interventions should focus on improving employment outcomes, not just completing training, which may require providing more tailored training programmes that address the specific needs of older women.

This was followed by a presentation by Ms Sugidha Nithiananthan, Director, Advocacy and Research, Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE) on ‘The Lived Experience of Ageing Among Women: A Study on the Impact on Career, Financial Health and Mental Well-Being.’ The presentation outlined some of the main areas of concern of older women in Singapore, in response to the White Paper on Singapore Women’s Development. Ms Nithiananthan explained how the White Paper on Singapore Women’s Development, released in 2022 focused on younger women, and did not include targeted policies or initiatives for older women. In response, to understand older women’s concerns, SAWA held a series of focus group discussions with older women focusing on five core themes: workplace, caregiving, retirement adequacy, health and well-being, and community support and outreach. Based on the insights from the focus group discussions, SAWA presented a series of recommendations in each core area as outlined below.

While the first two presentations focused on the concerns of current cohorts of older women, Ms Koh Yan Ping, CEO, Singapore Council of Women’s Organisations (SCWO) turned the attention to the future, or ‘Tomorrow’s New Old: Singapore’s Future Cohort of Ageing.’ Ms Koh shared the findings of a study conducted by the SCWO on this group of individuals, in their 50s and turning 60-70 in 2030, who are part of the growing sandwich generation of Singaporeans who are simultaneously caring for parents and children. Considering their differing responsibilities and profiles (for instance, they are better educated than previous cohorts), their concerns and needs for old age are also different. The findings showed that Tomorrow’s New Old (TNOs) wished to retire and live independently but wished for more mental and emotional support in later age. They preferred flexible work arrangements and prioritised retirement preparedness and financial independence. Like the previous cohorts of older persons, they were also concerned about ageism at the workplace and wished to have more support and concerted action taken by employers. In terms of living arrangements and caregiving, the study found that TNOs were more open to community care facilities. Consequently, Ms Koh pointed out that policy interventions for the future cohorts of older persons would need to be different, with a greater emphasis on community support (such as community care facilities), support structures for mental and emotional wellbeing, and evolving workplace policies that offer older employees more flexible work arrangements and support for retirement preparedness.

The final presentation by Ms Sabariah Aris, Assistant Director of the PPIS Research & Engagement Department (RED), introduced another dimension to intersectionality through her session titled “Who Gets Left Behind? Understanding Inequality Through the Lens of Gender, Faith, and Ageing.” Ms Aris underscored the knowledge gap on the aspirations of Singapore Muslim women, which limits the development of targeted support initiatives for this group. Drawing on findings from PPIS’ Aspirations of Singapore Muslim Women Research, her presentation examined how the intersecting structures of gender, faith, and age produce cumulative disadvantage among Muslim women in Singapore. From early gendered expectations and caregiving responsibilities to cultural misrecognition and labour market exclusion, these factors intensify over time—culminating in economic insecurity, social isolation, and marginalisation in later life. The study challenges monolithic portrayals of Muslim women by highlighting their faith-aligned aspirations, professional aspirations, and desire for agency and recognition. The study also called for a life course and intersectional approach to social policy, as well as the need to design inclusive systems that reflect the diverse lived realities of those most at risk of being left behind.

The presentations were followed by a panel discussion and open Q&A. The panellists discussed the challenges faced by the ageing population, especially women, in the workplace, the impact of the Workplace Fairness Act and the Tripartite Guidelines on Flexible Work Arrangements (FWAs), and the impact of caregiving responsibilities, particularly for women, on their careers and income and retirement security. The panellists explored the stereotypes and biases that presented challenges for women in the workplace, the need for employers to understand and effectively administer requests for FWAs, the importance of employers embracing and modelling best practices in relation to encouraging both men and women to undertake caregiving responsibilities, including utilising their full paternity leave, what would best motivate employers to take action on ageism and sexism in the workplace, and the role of men in addressing gender inequalities, among other issues. The panel concluded with the observation that these challenges are myriad and complex, and employers need to understand the value brought to their businesses when they address issues of age and sex discrimination in the workplace, and finally, that research and data is needed that verifies this.

Forum: Men’s mental health deserves a seat at the table—including at AWARE

This forum letter was originally published in The Straits Times on 9 June 2025.

Written by Bharathi Manogaran.

Every June, Men’s Mental Health Month comes and goes with too little noise in Singapore. In a society where boys are still told to “man up” and tears are a sign of weakness, the mental health struggles of men remain largely invisible.

To truly achieve a more equitable society, we must be prepared to have difficult, necessary conversations, including those about men’s mental health.

As a social worker who has worked with male perpetrators of interpersonal harm, I have seen how unresolved trauma issues, depression and substance misuse often lie beneath violent behaviour. Global studies suggest that between 25% and 60% of male perpetrators may struggle with mental health disorders. While mental illness is never an excuse for violence, this data underscores the urgent need to integrate mental health support into violence-prevention strategies, especially for boys and men raised to repress emotion and avoid help-seeking.

From 2019 to 2023, the number of suicides among men in Singapore was significantly higher than among women. Boys are less likely to seek help than girls. Mental disorders are now the leading cause of disability and death among children aged 10 to 14, according to a May 2025 study in The Lancet Public Health. And yet, we still struggle to talk openly about men’s emotional well-being.

The Netflix docuseries Adolescence has powerfully reignited this conversation. The show reveals how early boys are taught to suppress emotions, fear vulnerability and measure success through dominance. This isn’t just “boys being boys”—it’s the early formation of a mental health crisis.

At AWARE, we believe that patriarchy hurts everyone, and if we are serious about dismantling it, we must challenge not just the power structures that oppress women, but also the rigid gender expectations that harm men. It is with this hope and knowledge that we have embarked on running workshops focusing on masculinity for young men; understanding that gender justice is not just for women, but for all who are harmed by oppressive gender norms, including men, queer and trans individuals, and marginalised boys.

This is not about shifting resources away from women. It’s about recognising how rigid gender norms affect everyone; and building a society where care, vulnerability and healing are seen not as signs of weakness, but as essential parts of being human.

Bharathi Manogaran is the Deputy Executive Director at AWARE.

Forum: Furthering cause of gender equality goes beyond statistics

This forum letter was originally published in The Straits Times on 27 May 2025.

Written by Sugidha Nithiananthan.

We congratulate all appointees to the new Cabinet announced by Prime Minister Lawrence Wong on May 21, and all successful candidates in the 2025 General Election.

Out of the 97 elected MPs, 31 are women, which, at 32 per cent, breaks the 30 per cent barrier for the first time. And 25 per cent – 10 out of 40 – of the latest slate of political office-holders are women. This is an increase of one woman from the previous line-up.

Increasing the representation of women in leadership roles is important because the belief is that female leaders will drive progress and reform towards gender equality. Yet, there are instances where women in power have not taken the opportunity to champion equality.

For example, former British prime minister Margaret Thatcher notably lacked female-friendly policies, and had no interest in childcare provision or positive action for women.

It is therefore important that while we strive for equal representation, such leaders should also espouse policies that reflect and promote gender equality.

Equal representation also matters from a legitimacy standpoint – those who govern should reflect the diversity of those they represent.

Furthering the cause of gender equality goes beyond statistics. It is about policies and outcomes. It is crucial for our refreshed set of leaders to deeply understand the root causes of gender inequality, so that they can actively challenge and transform them.

We need leaders, whatever their gender, who possess an understanding of the intersectionality of gender, race, age and class, and apply this lens when they engage with complex social issues such as reproductive rights, childcare policies, discrimination in the workplace and gender-based violence. These remain critical areas, and require continued and focused interventions.

Leadership on this front means partnering civil society to co-create inclusive policies, grounded in lived experiences and supported by gender-disaggregated data. By engaging communities directly and valuing the insights of those most affected – caregivers, survivors of violence and discrimination, low-income workers, and men navigating rigid gender roles – we can design systems that are more just, more inclusive, and more responsive to the needs of all.

We hope to see our new batch of leaders bring such an awareness and approach to their roles in Parliament and government, so that this truly translates to more equal policies for all.

Sugidha Nithiananthan is the Director of Advocacy and Research at AWARE.

Pregnant women in the workplace deserve better

This op-ed was originally published in The Straits Times on 21 May 2025.

By Sugidha Nithiananthan and Adilah Rafey

Jenny (not her real name) was undergoing a probationary period at work when she found out she was pregnant. She did not want to disclose this to her employer, but had no choice when she experienced complications requiring time off.

After she returned to work, her employer fired her a day before her three-month probation was to end. She was not given any reason, and her employer docked her pay for the medical leave she took.

Another worker, Anne (not her real name), applied for a job and was granted an interview. While filling out a form for this, she noticed that a health examination was required. Given that she was pregnant, she could not undergo the required X-ray examination.

Anne e-mailed the company to say she was pregnant and asked for more information about the examination. The company ghosted her.

Jenny and Anne are not isolated cases. They are among hundreds of women who sought help from the Association of Women for Action and Research (AWARE) for discrimination and harassment as a result of pregnancy.

Discrimination against expectant mothers in the workplace is a reality in Singapore and is often treated as part and parcel of the workplace culture.

Apart from the fact that pregnancy discrimination is manifestly unfair, as a nation we are also facing a seriously low total fertility rate.

We should be looking at how we can make bolder systemic changes that support parents in growing their families. This has to start with how pregnant women are treated in the workplace, in the home, and in society at large.

Eradicating discrimination against pregnant women

No woman should have to choose between her job and having children, but this is the reality when discrimination and harassment continue in our workplaces today.

The Workplace Fairness Act (WFA) was passed this year. When it comes into effect in 2026/2027, it will prohibit employment decisions that discriminate against pregnant women. However, the WFA falls short of fully protecting pregnant women.

The WFA applies only to a limited set of employment decisions: hiring, appraising, promoting, reducing employees’ rank or status, training, dismissing, retrenching and terminating the contract of employees.

This excludes a host of employment decisions that regularly affect pregnant employees, such as docking their salaries, giving them lower or higher workloads without their consent, and reducing their bonuses. These are noteworthy concerns.

Indeed, the Ministry of Manpower’s (MOM) Fair Employment Practices 2023 report confirmed that salary, workload distribution and bonus were listed as the top three most common forms of discrimination, at 43.4 per cent, 33.7 per cent and 26.8 per cent, respectively.

AWARE recommends that a wider range of employment decisions be covered under the WFA, including the ones identified by the MOM.

Since the WFA has not come into effect, women like Jenny and Anne have no other option but to rely on the Tripartite Guidelines on Fair Employment Practices (TGFEP). Complaints of discrimination can be made to the Tripartite Alliance for Fair and Progressive Employment Practices (TAFEP). However, the TGFEP is not law, and there is no legal recourse against an employer who refuses to comply.

In addition, to effectively rely on the WFA or the TGFEP, women need to prove that they have been discriminated against based on their pregnancy.

This seems reasonable, on the face of it. However, in practical terms, it is difficult to prove. Many employers refuse to give a reason, or sometimes give reasons that do not seem genuine.

In another case that AWARE saw, Farah (not her real name) was 17 weeks pregnant and had her employment terminated. The reason given was that her position was redundant due to restructuring.

Another fellow pregnant employee similarly had her employment terminated.

In cases like these, it is difficult for employees to prove that their employers discriminated against them on the basis of their pregnancy. AWARE calls for the burden of proof to be reversed in favour of pregnant women.

So if a woman’s employment is terminated while she is pregnant, there is a presumption that it was a discriminatory dismissal—and the burden is on the employer to prove there is a valid reason for the termination.

Offer better support for parents

Mothers whose children are Singapore citizens are entitled to 16 weeks of maternity leave.

For the first two children, the Government pays 50 per cent of their pay and the employer bears the rest. However, for the third and subsequent children, the Government bears the full wages for the 16 weeks of maternity leave.

This cost to the employer for the first two children is often glossed over. Such a cost could easily deter employers and be the source of discrimination.

Since it is in the country’s interest that people have children, full government-paid maternity leave should be extended to the first and second children as well. 

This means employers not being burdened by the cost of having more children in Singapore.

In addition, it will also encourage more employers to hire temporary covers for employees on maternity leave, if there is no additional cost to the employer in doing so. Such a practice is fairer to existing employees too, rather than asking them to take on the work of the employee on maternity leave and breeding resentment among them—a further source of discrimination.

Policies in countries touted as having the “best practices” for childcare leave by the United Nations Population Fund are instructive to look at. 

In Sweden, there is generous parental leave of 240 days per child per parent (and 480 days for single parents). Parental insurance—funded by employers and the self-employed—broadly covers 80% of income for 195 days (or 390 days for single parents) and covers the remaining 45 days (or 90 days for single parents) at a minimum rate.

The leave can be used any time from 60 days before delivery (by the mother only for the pre-delivery period) until the child is 12; but after the age of four, parents have only 96 days per child. This is an excellent gender-equal policy and one that gives equal recognition to single parents, too. We echo our previous calls to equalise maternity and paternity leave—parenting is the equal responsibility of both parents.

The parental policies in Estonia and Slovenia also resonate. They provide unemployed parents with some basic income as parental benefits towards caregiving of their children, especially in infancy.

Time for reasonable accommodations

Reasonable accommodations are often discussed in the context of disability, but they apply to a variety of situations, including pregnancy and caregiving.

For example, pregnant women who are expected to perform certain physical tasks at the workplace should reasonably be given tasks commensurate with their ability during pregnancy.

Accommodations that pregnant employees need for the health and safety of their own bodies, and to some extent that of their unborn child, are reasonable asks. It is important to remember the focus is on what is reasonable in the circumstances, for both employers and employees.

In most developed social democracies, the obligation on employers to provide reasonable accommodations is included within employment Acts or alongside anti-discrimination policies.

The principle behind this is that most anti-discrimination policies—which prohibit employers from choosing not to hire employees with protected characteristics—need to also require employers to provide reasonable accommodations for their employees when they are hired.

In Singapore, the Government has chosen to pass the WFA without a mandatory obligation to provide reasonable accommodations. Instead, the aim is for TAFEP to issue guidelines on reasonable accommodations with the hope that all employers will adopt these guidelines. This means that employers are not legally compelled to provide reasonable accommodations.

We hope that TAFEP and MOM will track the adoption of the guidelines by employers and will also track how well employers are responding to employees’ needs and providing reasonable accommodations. This will enable the Government to assess earlier rather than later if legislation is required to make it obligatory for employers to provide accommodations that are reasonable.

The Government can also help employers to adopt these guidelines by providing them with grants to put in place the various reasonable accommodations—for example, lactation rooms and refrigerators to store breast milk—and other incentives to encourage adoption of the guidelines, such as tax incentives.

We call for more substantive measures to support mothers in the workplace, at home and in society. This month of May, when we celebrate mothers, it is time we set our sights on good policy that values how precious motherhood is.

Sugidha Nithiananthan is Director of Advocacy and Research at AWARE. Adilah Rafey is a Research Executive at AWARE.

AWARE deep dives with CNA into why victim-blaming is so dangerous

Sugidha Nithiananthan, the Director of Advocacy and Research at AWARE, talking about the misconceptions perpetuated by victim-blaming on the CNA Deep Dive podcast. Screenshot taken from Channel News Asia’s Instagram.

Article written by Athiyah Azeem.

A lot of people say that if you enter a dangerous situation, it contributes to the offence, said Steven Chia, host of CNA’s Deep Dive podcast.

“If your house was burgled and you left the door open, in court you can argue that, well, you left the door open.” Steven said on the podcast.

“Actually, you can’t,” said Sugidha Nithiananthan, the Director of Advocacy and Research at AWARE. “And that’s the whole point.”

Even if a door was left wide open, when a burglar walks in and steals the victim’s belongings, the burglar is still guilty of theft. Similarly, as long as a woman has not consented to sex, they are not to blame for being raped.

Sugidha used this analogy to explore the dangers and misconceptions that victim-blaming perpetuates with hosts Steven and Otelli Edwards on CNA’s Deep Dive podcast in April. She was joined by Mark Yeo, director of Fortress Law Corporation, who provided insight into how courts approach cases of sexual assault.

Sugidha spoke about this in the wake of former Vice President of the Law Society Chia Boon Teck’s infamous LinkedIn post. In his 10-point post, Chia used the fact that the survivor met the rapist through a dating app and sat in his bedroom to suggest that she consented to being raped.

“The fact that she decided to meet him through Tinder, or because she decided to get drunk at the bar, or because she followed him back to his room, none of this leads to consent,” Sugidha said. “It essentially always boils down to: Was there consent when it happened?”

Listen to this podcast episode to hear Sugidha dispel rape myths, and explain what consent is and why it’s so dangerous to blame survivors of sexual assault.

Here are some key takeaways:

  • Victim-blaming is casting full or partial blame on victim-survivors for being raped.
  • Victim-blaming incorrectly focusses on what the victim-survivor “did” to supposedly contribute to causing the rape, instead of focussing on the perpetrator who is solely responsible for causing rape.
  • There is no one way to be a victim-survivor. Sometimes, survivors freeze and are not able to say “no.” Sometimes, survivors fawn and keep in contact with the rapist after being raped. Rape is not about what the survivor did, but whether they consented to sex.
  • Rape myths are untrue beliefs people hold about why a victim-survivor was raped (e.g. “she was asking for it.”)
  • People still believe in rape myths, which present in myriad ways:
    • Comments perpetuating rape myths that go unchallenged in casual conversations.
    • Myths are used to excuse perpetrators in court.
    • Men believing a woman they are meeting is consenting to sex because they’re wearing something revealing.
    • Survivors not wanting to report being raped because of the fear of being disbelieved.
  • Rape myths obfuscate the truth: That you cannot assume, manipulate, or coerce consent.
  • Consent education goes a long way in helping people understand consent, navigate sexual situations, and communicate what they want from a sexual partner.
  • It’s important to teach consent to people when they are young, so they are well-informed when they’re older, when they are navigating sexual situations.

Athiyah Azeem is the Communications Executive at AWARE.