Author: AWARE Media

To fight domestic violence, strive for gender equality

crime-sceneBy Kokila Annamalai, We Can! Campaign Manager

The case of the woman who died at the hands of her husband demonstrates that rethinking gender roles is critical to preventing domestic violence (“Chinese national, 61, gets 10 years’ jail for strangling wife”; Nov 3).

The husband became violent towards his wife because he felt humiliated at receiving financial support from her. He was also angered that she refused intimacy after he woke her at 4am. Just after this refusal, he attacked and killed her.

Parts of this story are familiar. The Association of Women for Action and Research has encountered several cases of husbands turning abusive once their wife earned more than them or enjoyed career advancement.

As with this man, they used violence, sexual coercion and controlling behaviour to regain the power they believed they had lost in the relationship. These cases highlight how destructive gender roles can be.

First, in a mutually supportive relationship, a husband would celebrate his wife’s career success. But if his role and self-worth are tied to being the family’s chief breadwinner, then her achievements become threatening to his status.

Rigid gender norms of what a real man should be like in a relationship are harmful. They can transform a man’s natural distress at unemployment or career difficulties into an unreasonable resentment of the woman who is assisting him.

Second, in an equal relationship, spouses respect each other’s boundaries and right to decide whether to have sex at any one time.

But if a husband believes marital sex should primarily serve his needs, then his wife’s refusal of a sexual request may be seen as a denial of his entitlement, rather than something he should accept as part of mutual respect.

We are troubled that the violence here was presented as a fight, rather than an attack, and that the victim was described as provoking the killer.

How can a woman’s wish to stay in the same country as her daughter, her refusal to have sex after a 4am quarrel or her financial support of a husband in need be considered provocations?

If we are serious about addressing domestic violence, we must call it by its name and reject attempts to excuse or minimise its severity.

To reduce domestic violence, both state and society must emphasise the importance of gender equality within marriages and relationships. A woman’s financial success is a reason for her husband to feel glad, not ashamed.

We urge the Government to fully remove marital immunity against rape in the Penal Code, to send a strong signal that women have the right to decide whether to have sex with a spouse. Marriage is not blanket consent.

Fostering equal relationships based on mutual respect is critical to preventing domestic violence and ensuring the safety of all members of society.

This letter first appeared in TODAY Voices on 9 November.

White Ribbon Campaign

Men and boys: It’s time to stand against violence.


This year, We Can! is joining hands with the White Ribbon Campaign, calling on men and boys to oppose violence against women by wearing a white ribbon for a week.

Each white ribbon represents our hope for a better world. A world where healthy relationships and gender equality are the norm, a world where what makes a man is not aggression and violence, but respect and care for the safety of women and girls.

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Join us for our Ride Against Violence

rideagainstviolenceOn 28 November 2015, we’ll be on the road for our Ride Against Violence rally, the first of its kind in Singapore!

Organised in partnership with Harley-Davidson and Chrysler Jeep with volunteers from Beyond Social Services, come hang out with our bikers and Jeepers and get your very own White Ribbon here:

 

12.00pm to 12.30pm: In front of OUE Mandarin Gallery, Orchard

1.00pm to 1.30pm: East Coast Park, Parkland Green Carpark

If you can’t find us, give us a call at 94891231 and we’ll find you!


Catch Neil Humphreys at this year’s We Can! Arts Fest

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We’re super excited to feature guest speaker, Neil Humphreys, at RALLY this year! Neil is a best-selling author in Singapore and an anti-violence ambassador – he hopes to call on other men and boys to take a stand against violence.

Catch Neil’s speech at 5.30pm on 6 December 2015 at the Glass Hall, Singapore Arts Museum!

 

 


More about the White Ribbon Campaign

White Ribbon first began in Canada in 1991 and has since become a global movement of men and boys across 60 countries taking pledging to never commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women and girls.

Other ways to get involved:

  1. Host a White Ribbon talk at your organisation, community or school. Contact wecan@aware.org.sg for a speaking engagement.
  2. Attend a Change Maker workshop and learn about violence against women and how we can all play a part in its prevention.

Reflections on ‘Doing Good Great’

readingA guest blog post by Camille Neale

The newly launched Doing Good Great: Thirteen Asian Heroes and Their Causes by Willie Cheng, Sharifah Mohamed & Cheryl Tang (Epigram Books) celebrates the work of thirteen individuals in Asia, tracing their first steps in promoting social change, their motivations and personal philosophies. The authors call these individuals social heroes, galvanising change despite their own struggles. Their work engages with meaningful problems of human suffering, whether through advocating for workers rights, media freedom, or laws against child prostitution.

The people working to address social issues are not always as well-documented as the issues themselves. In my view, it is important to bring an awareness of them into the mainstream media. It’s easy to become overwhelmed by societal injustice, but these stories show that even when you can’t count on your government to protect your rights, individuals working in social justice can make positive change.

Singapore’s chosen “social hero” is Braema Mathi, a previous president of AWARE. The specific issue in focus concerns the status of migrant workers in Singapore. The authors trace the development of Ms Mathi’s social consciousness, which started early through the example of her parents. The authors see cause and champion as closely entwined, so that activists’ personal stories are an important part of understanding their work.

In Singapore, migrant workers’ needs are often overlooked and their rights violated. As Singapore has one of the highest percentages of migrant workers in Asia, this is a considerable social issue. During the course of her work, Ms Mathi was forced to rethink the ability of legislation to promote social change. Notably, she succeded in reducing the use of the word “maid” in the lingua franca and replacing it with “foreign domestic worker.” This simple change altered public perceptions of foreign domestic workers– they are not servants and should not be treated as such.

In 1992, Ms Mathi started volunteering for AWARE. She was elected president in 2006, leading to an appointment as an NMP (nominated member of parliament). She notes that her time as an NMP taught her important lessons that made her a better advocate – such as the importance of making contacts inside the government in order to enact change.

Now MARUAH (a Singaporean human rights NGO) is the main vehicle through which Ms Mathi advances her human rights agenda. She does not know the future of MARUAH and her work, but she notes that the responsibility is on everyone to uphold the rights of others: “how can we sit back and not do something about a child, an old man, a disabled person, a woman who struggles daily without basic necessities, just because he or she was born into a family that has less, or in a country that has less? It is our duty and our opportunity to share what we have… if when we took for ourselves, was it also at their expense further down the chain.”

NGO work can be thankless. Ms Mathi has faced numerous setbacks, but stories like hers must be heard. They widen awareness of the types of resources at your disposal, and show the need for the involvement of individuals and civil society. Simply doing away with a term such as “maid” can have a significant impact as it changes the narrative. In refusing to participate in the use of derogatory language, you take a stand against a system that prioritises certain lives over others.

As the chapter demonstrates, in Singapore, some work is more valued than others, and income level and societal respect reflect these hierarchies. Although the problem is more insidious than perhaps can be “solved” by changing laws, Ms Mathi’s work reveals the power of public education. The book suggests that although tackling social issues is slow going, human rights work is valuable because it recognises the innate dignity of humans. It shows low-wage earners that society will prevent them from going hungry; and shows women who’ve experienced abuse that their voices are important.

Doing work that you love is a privilege. Ms Mathi feels lucky enough to have this privilege, and so chooses to do work that dismantles oppressive institutions. In reading this, I was reminded of a quote from Leslie Jamison’s “The Empathy Exams”:

“Empathy isn’t just something that happens to us – a meteor shower of synapses firing across the brain – it’s also a choice we make: to pay attention, to extend ourselves. It’s made of exertion, that dowdier cousin of impulse. Sometimes we care for another because we know we should, or because it’s asked for, but this doesn’t make our caring hollow. This confession of effort chafes against the notion that empathy should always rise unbidden, that genuine means the same thing as unwilled, that intentionality is the enemy of love. But I believe in intention and I believe in work. I believe in waking up in the middle of the night and packing our bags and leaving our worst selves for our better ones.”

About the author: Camille Neale is currently an intern at AWARE.

Filming domestic workers: MOM and SPF reply

typingLast week, AWARE and TWC2 released a joint statement calling on the Ministry of Manpower, the Ministry of Law, the Attorney-General’s Chambers and the Singapore Police Force to clarify the law on filming domestic workers.

On Friday, the Ministry of Manpower and the Singapore Police Force sent us the below reply.

We are grateful to MOM and SPF for making it clear that the law will provide this protection for the privacy and dignity of domestic workers.

We refer to your email to the Minister of Manpower and Commissioner of Police dated 17 November 2015 on “Call to clarify law on filming domestic workers”.

2. It is an offence under the Penal Code to insult a woman’s modesty by intruding upon her privacy. The offence is punishable with imprisonment of up to one year, or a fine, or both.

3. Employers must respect the privacy of their employees, and this applies equally to foreign domestic workers (FDWs) who work and reside in their homes. CCTVs should not be installed in areas that will compromise the FDWs’ privacy, for example, where they change their clothes or the bathroom area.

4. Anyone who feels that their modesty has been insulted should lodge a police report immediately. The Police will then assess the facts and circumstances of each case, and take appropriate action should a criminal offence be disclosed.

5. Thank you.

Ministry of Manpower
Singapore Police Force

Call to clarify law on filming domestic workers

joint statementRecently, the media has discussed the camera surveillance of domestic workers by employers. Reports state (and our experience tells us) that this includes the use of cameras in bathrooms and in the workers’ sleeping quarters.

As organisations who work to promote women’s and migrants’ rights, we have strong concerns about this practice. Camera surveillance undermines workers’ dignity and can be highly distressing for them.

This impact exists even when cameras are only installed in areas such as living rooms or kitchens. But it is especially acute if all of a residence is included. Live-in workers then endure round-the-clock surveillance, with no moments of privacy in the entire 24-hour cycle, placing a heavy toll on mental well-being.

In our view, the use of surveillance cameras in bathrooms and sleeping quarters, areas where people regularly undress and perform very private activities, do and should amount to offences punishable under the criminal law.

“Surveillance capturing a domestic worker in a state of undress could constitute insulting the modesty of a woman under the Penal Code,” states Choo Zheng Xi of Peter Low LLC.

Many people have been convicted on charges of insult of modesty or outrage of modesty for filming others in bathrooms (see selection of media reports below). The precedents are clear: this behaviour is an unacceptable invasion of privacy. Even if the motivation is non-sexual, the invasive conduct is no less damaging to the victim’s privacy and mental well-being.

The grounds for any surveillance at all are tenuous. Of over 220,000 domestic workers in Singapore, and many more who have worked here in the past, only a very small proportion have harmed members of their employers’ families. The unrepresentative experiences of a few cannot justify the pre-emptive ill-treatment of domestic workers in general. Selectivity in engaging caregivers, and efforts to develop positive relationships with them, are far fairer and less damaging ways of preventing abuse.

Domestic workers have no power to find out or control how footage of them may be used or circulated by their employers, now or in the future. Filming them in the bathroom or sleeping quarters puts them in a position of great vulnerability.

We urge the Ministry of Manpower, the Ministry of Law, the Attorney-General’s Chambers and the Singapore Police Force to publicly clarify that using cameras in workers’ bathrooms and sleeping quarters is illegal and unacceptable. We also urge the Ministry of Manpower to discourage the use of camera surveillance in general, in its guidance on best practice for employers.

Signed by:
AWARE
TWC2

This statement has also been sent to the Ministry of Manpower, the Ministry of Law, the Attorney-General’s Chambers and the Singapore Police Force.

Precedents:

1. Man accused of filming women in church toilets, The Straits Times, 14 September 2013: http://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/man-accused-of-filming-women-in-church-toilets
2. Voyeur landlord sentenced to a month in jail for filming tenant in toilet, Coconuts Singapore, 7 April 2015: http://singapore.coconuts.co/2015/04/07/voyeur-landlord-sentenced-month-jail-filming-tenant-toilet
3. Poly teen caught filming in women’s toilet, The New Paper, 7 June 2015: http://news.asiaone.com/news/crime/poly-teen-caught-filming-womens-toilet

Women Leadership and Impact in Asia

Creating an environment where talent can thrive and rise to the top is critical in achieving fully productive organisations and governments. Despite significant advances globally in women’s health, education and leadership opportunities in recent decades, gender equality and women’s leadership still lags in Asia.

In practically all sectors, the higher one looks at the leadership ladder, the fewer women there are. Societal pressures, cultural norms and structural barriers must be shifted to enable the advancement of women and societies.

As the leading public policy school in the region, the Lee Kuan Yew School of Public Policy at the National University of Singapore is addressing this challenge by providing women across Asia and the Pacific with knowledge, practical skills, support and networks to thrive in public leadership roles through a unique two-day workshop.

This workshop will build the capacity of women leaders who are influencing social, economic and political change in Asia. The programme focuses on developing personal expertise in core skills and on challenging structures that are hampering gender equality.

Topics covered in the programme include:

  • Building your personal brand
  • Peak performance and self-sabotage
  • Persuasive communication and influencing others
  • Talent and diversity management: How organisations can help or hinder women’s progression.
  • Gender implications of public policy: What policies are constructive or obstructive? What are some best practices from around the world?
  • Innovative approaches to women’s empowerment
  • Implementing change

For more information on this workshop, and to sign up, do click here.

Gender Justice: A Conversation for Change

12190910_1491921584437492_6649016191489991450_nJoin other youth in creating a gender-equal world.

Do you find it unfair that boys and girls are treated differently?  Have you been held back from something you wanted to do, because of your gender? Do you want to meet other teens who feel the same way, and who don’t think this is right?

Well, we are a group of teens who think it’s time to speak up about these things, and if you are too, and are between 14-19 years​ old, we have an exciting event for you!

gender justiceGender Justice: A Conversation for Change is a two-day youth forum, a safe space for us to think and talk about what’s gone wrong – and how to put it right – in a world that won’t let us forget our gender for a minute. Join us to discuss strategies for change, and our shared hopes for a fairer, more equal world.

This is our chance to speak, to be heard, and to have a dialogue with our peers. Through listening to each other, we’ll unpack the many ways gender expectations affect our lives at home, in school and other places – and come up with plans and projects to change them together.

We invite you to a forum packed with an exciting programme and the chance to discover and forge meaningful friendships. You can look forward to art and performance, discussion sessions, workshops, hands-on exercises, time for quiet reflection and just, you know, chilling out :)

We, the organising committee, come from different communities, families, schools and cultures, but we all care about creating a world where we are all respected, heard and encouraged to pursue our own dreams, no matter what our gender. This is a chance for all of us, together with you, to find solidarity across our differences and deepen our collective wisdom.

We hope to empower and mobilise the youth of Singapore to make gender-based discrimination a thing of the past. And the best part is: you can be part of the change.

 


 

Date: 23 & 24 January 2016
Time: 8:30am – 5:30pm
Venue: Conference Room 3, UWCSEA East Campus, 1 Tampines Street 73, Singapore 528704

To join the forum, please apply here!

Anyone who is 14-19 years old and lives in Singapore can apply. Applications are open till 11 January 2016. We will notify you if your application was successful by 15 January 2016.

 


 

Please join our Facebook event, where we will put up the full programme and more exciting details about the forum as they develop! If you have any questions, you can email us at genderjusticesg@gmail.com.


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AWARE’s submission to the Women’s Charter consultation

writingAWARE was recently invited to submit recommendations to the proposed amendments of the Women’s Charter through the public consultation portal REACH. We have submitted our comments on the proposed amendments in the Women’s Charter (Amendment) Bill 2016. As stated in the Consultation Paper of the Ministry for Social and Family Development (MSF), the proposed changes are:

  1. Putting the child’s interest first in divorce through a mandatory parenting programme for divorcing parents
  2. Allowing maintenance for incapacitated men who cannot work
  3. Enhancing protection for women, girls, residents at places of safety and professionals engaged in protection work; and,
  4. Voiding a marriage that is a marriage of convenience under section 57C of the Immigration Act

For AWARE’s recommendations and comments, read the full text of our submission. AWARE has also previously submitted recommendations on improving the Women’s Charter in relation to the issue of domestic violence (dated 17 January 2015) to the Office for Women’s Development, Ministry for Social and Family Development on 23 April 2015.

Launch of WomensAction.sg – a celebration of the women’s movement in Singapore

women's actionAmid SG50’s stories of national progress, one major facet of Singapore’s achievements – the struggle for women’s rights and gender equality – will soon be brought under a spotlight.

Last week, AWARE released an exciting video preview of Women’s Action, a richly immersive website telling the story of the women’s movement in Singapore – its landmark achievements, its champions, its past and ongoing struggles, and the deep impact of its work on the daily lives of ordinary people.

The visually sumptuous website, which goes live on 7 November, presents this history with:

  • Up-close video interviews with figures as diverse as MP Tin Pei Ling and the ‘Founding Mother of Social Work’, Ann Wee.
  • Beautiful photo-essays exploring a wide range of experiences, from the personal dimensions of civil society work to the challenges of navigating a transnational family.
  • Meticulously researched articles across nine key themes, featuring striking archival photographs and interviews with over 60 individuals who have been part of the women’s movement.
  • An informative timeline capturing key milestones in the last 50 years of the women’s movement.

Last week’s video preview, ‘The Origins of AWARE’, features an interview with AWARE’s founding members Lena Lim and Margaret Thomas, about the events leading to the formation of AWARE in 1985.

Material under each theme will be released in stages over the course of the next five months, beginning with Civil Society and Education on 7 November. All videos featured can also be found in AWARE’s YouTube channel.

“This website is a much-needed permanent and easily accessible record of Singapore women’s struggle for equality,” said Margaret Thomas, founding member of AWARE and current board member. “It’s so easy for details of history to be forgotten.”

“Many have heard of the Women’s Charter, but how did it get passed? What is the backstory behind the legal recognition of family violence?” said Jolene Tan, Programmes and Communications Senior Manager of AWARE. “This website showcases these and other struggles for greater gender equality.”

The first three themes, two videos and a photo essay will be released on 7 November at womensaction.sg and AWARE’s Facebook and Twitter sites. Follow them for the latest release of this initiative.

Coordinated by AWARE and put together by a team of writers, researchers, photographers and videographers, with website development by Minitheory, this project is supported under the Singapore Memory Project’s irememberSG Fund, as part of the SG50 celebrations.

This post was originally released on 4 November as a press release.